Opposite Action

Use opposite action when your emotions do NOT fit the facts or when acting on your emotions is NOT effective. EVERY EMOTION HAS AN ACTION URGE. CHANGE THE EMOTION BY ACTING OPPOSITE TO ITS ACTION URGE. Consider these examples: EMOTION -> ACTION URGE -> OPPOSITE ACTION Fear -> Run away/avoid -> approach/ don’t avoid Anger […]

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Check the Facts

FACTS Many emotions and actions are set off by our thoughts and interpretations of events, not by the events themselves. Events -> Thoughts -> Emotions Our emotions can also have a big effect on our thoughts about events. Event -> Emotion -> Thoughts Examining our thoughts and checking the facts can help us change our […]

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Exposure of my childhood

On Friday April 27th 2018, I had an appointment with my therapist. I did an exposure. It was similar to the ptsd treatment. I closed my eyes and my therapist directed me to my past when I had an argue with my mom about asking her to help me stop the intimidation and bullying at […]

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What Emotions Do for You

EMOTIONS MOTIVATE (AND ORGANIZE) US FOR ACTION. Emotions motivate our behavior. Emotions prepare us for action. The action urge of specific emotions is often “hard-wired” in biology. Emotions save time in getting us to act in important situations. Emotions can be especially important when we don’t have time to think things through. Strong emotions help […]

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Mindfulness of Current Thoughts

1- OBSERVE YOUR THOUGHTS. As waves, coming and going. Not supressing thoughts. Not judging thoughts. Acknowledging their presence. Not keeping thoughts around. Not analyzing thoughts. Practicing willingness. Stepping back and observing thoughts as they run in and out of your mind. 2- ADOPT A CURIOUS MIND. Ask, “Where do my thoughts come from?” Watch and […]

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Half-Smiling and Willing Hands

Accepting reality with your body. HALF-SMILING Relax your face from the top of your head down to your chin and jaw. Let go of each facial muscle (forehead, eyes, and brows; cheeks, mouth, and tongue; teeth slightly apart). If you have difficulty, try tensing your facial muscles and then letting go. A tense smile is a […]

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