I am proud to be this hockey player. I am realizing a dream. I put the efforts in and I knew that I will be able to play. Because when we want something and we work hard, it happens. It is not a miracle it is a fact. When we play sports, it helps with our mental and physical health. I feel so good and relieved after a hockey practice or a hockey game. I am so proud of myself. I can feel my anxiety going out of my body. I also keep going to the gym. Everytime when I exercise I feel good. I feel free. I feel relaxed. I am a Lady Bombers and this is another of my coping skills.
Have you heard about chamomile herbal tea? This is one of my favorite before bed time. It helps to keep my anxiety and my stress level down. I also get an amazing sleep. This herbal tea can get purchased pretty much everywhere. But my favorite one is from David’s Tea. Those leaves, flowers are so tasteful. Sometimes when my budget is tight, I get some from the grocery store but if I want a nice treat, David’s Tea is my best! I recommend chamomile tea to everyone. My husband now drinks some with me at night and he told me that he feels more relax after all. The only thing is chamomile is almost an anti-inflammatory so for those ladies who are pregnant, I am sorry but this can activate your labour. Always reading about what we are drinking as a herbal tea is helpful for anyone.
There is another coping skills that I love to use when I have time. During a rainy day like today and feeling down and you don’t know why. Just take a nap. This is what I did. I took a power nap and I woke up calmer than I was because I was having anxiety as well. My mood was better and I know that I will be ready to welcome my kids after school and will spend a good evening with my family. Relaxing in silent. Specially when you have a house full of little people it is nice to enjoy the silence of your house. Appreciate each moment and have a nice nap!
- Imagination: Look for the humor and Anticipate the future
- Life planning: set clear goals. Plan for the future
- Organizing: Take charge. Make order. Don’t let things pile up.
- Problem solving: solve it yourself. Seek outside help. Tackle problems head-on.
- Relabelling: Change perspectives. Look for good in a bad situation
- Time Management: Focus on top priorities. Work smarter, not harder.
- Getaways: Spend time alone. See a movie. Daydream.
- Hobbies: Write. Paint. Remodel. Create something
- Learning: Take a class. Read. Join a club.
- Music: Play an instrument. Sing. Listen to the stereo.
- Play: Play a game. Go out with friends
- Work: Tackle a new project. Keep busy. Volunteer
- Biofeedback: Listen to your body. Know your physical limitation.
- Exercise: Pursue physical fitness. Jog. Swim. Dance. Walk.
- Nourishment: eat for health. Limit use of alcohol.
- Relaxation: Tense and relax each muscle. Take a warm bath. Breathe deeply.
- Self-Care: Energize your work and play. Strive for self-improvement
- Stretching: Take short stretch breaks throughout your day.
- Commitment: Take up a worthy cause. Invest yourself meaningfully.
- Reflect: Meditate. Gratitude journal. Think about beliefs
- Surrender: Let go of problems. Learn to live with the situation.
- Valuing: Spend time and energy wisely. Find purpose and meaning in life. Put values into action.
- Balancing: Balance time at work and home. Accept the good with the bad.
- Conflict Resolution: Look for win/win solutions. Forgive readily
- Esteem building: Build good family feelings. Focus on personal strengths.
- Flexibility: Take a new family roles. Stay open to change.
- Networking: Develop friendships with other families. Make use of community resources
- Togetherness: Take time to be together. Build family traditions. Express affection.
- Affirmation: Believe in yourself. Trust others. Give compliments
- Assertiveness: State your needs and wants. Say “no” respectfully.
- Contact: Make new friends. Touch. Really listen to others.
- Expression: Show feelings. Share feelings
- Limits: accept other’s boundaries. Drop some involvement
- Linking: Share problems with others. Ask for support from family/friends
Another coping skill that I love and want to share with you. I was not feeling very good today. Some anxiety was rising up and I was feeling down emotionally. First, I put my cleaning on hold and I had a big nap. I woke up a little better than before but still not the best. Second, I drank a chamomile tea then I cooked supper. My anxiety was gone but my mood was not very good. Third, when my man came home from work I went for 3 km walk. While I was walking, I was listening to some classic 90’s. Savage Garden was in my earphones and my mood started to get better. I felt a lot of nostalgia. Good memories from the 90’s were swirling around in my mind. I finally changed my mood and cleared my anxiety with good coping skills.
When I feel my anxiety rising up I lay down on a yoga mat and I pratice some deep breathing exercises and I follow a guided meditation on youtube. Youtube has different good and amazing guided meditation and relaxation. They are short, medium and long. You can have access to the one who is more appropriate for you. Find yours on youtube!